Feed Your Health, Not Just Your Hunger.

July 7th was the last day that I wrote on this blog and it feels like just yesterday.  It is absolutely a reminder of how fast life moves.  When July came around, I was finishing up summer employment, organizing for a season of coaching, preparing to gut and re-do our kitchen, and gearing up for a new school year.  When I think about to-do lists, sometimes I feel overwhelmed.  When I look at the "did-it" it list, I feel like wonder woman.  It is incredible what we are able to accomplish when we are focused and driven.

This school year has flown past, and we are already only a month from Christmas break.  In the past few months I have gone through weeks of exhaustion, days of excitement, and overall a rejuvenation of my passion for working with youth.  I left work the other day and felt love for my life.  How wonderful is that?  Even though the serenity prayer is repeated multiple times during multiple hours of my day, God has granted an opportunity to do something fantastic with my life.  That is an excellent reason to lift my heart in praise during mine and the big man upstair's daily conversations.

My health and my husbands health has been a constant priority for about the past year.  I proved to myself that I could maintain a healthy lifestyle while coaching, but I also proved to myself the importance of balance between work and play.  At the end of the day, exercise sounded exhausting.  My house was a disaster, the papers I brought home to grade weren't grading themselves, and I had nothing left to give.   I had no more happy, no more sad, no more excitement, no more NOTHING.  I didn't go. I stayed at home the cycle of unbalance began.

Did my health go back to the way I was a year ago?  Good grief, no! But it was a regression from the progress I made.  Now, I could be down on myself and asking how could I let myself down, but I see a bright side.  It is the optimist's blessing, or maybe curse since consequences never seem to carry a whole lot of negative weight.  I noticed that since my lifestyle transformation, I recognize regression.  I recognize that I can do better.  My life is much more than exercise and diet.  My life is rich with friends, family, a wonderful career, a cozy home, two fur-babies (dogs:), and it is supported by a healthy lifestyle.  My life is full of imperfections.  I tend to laugh too soon, my house is rarely "spotless," I am regularly too busy, I get frustrated when something doesn't come easy, and I struggle to balance my time well between me and the rest of the world.

My body craved exercise, just not in the way I was anticipating.  I was exhausted.  My muscles ached at the end of the day.  My stress level was high.  It was hard to get out of the bed in the morning.  I never turned to cooking or eating unhealthy.  An important part of my body's overall health was left in the dust, and I didn't notice that quick enough.   When I exercise I feel rejuvenated and refreshed.  Getting out of bed may not be easy, but it certainly doesn't feel impossible.  After I run and lift my stress level seems bearable and I tend to get more done on my to-do lists.  The past few months weren't a let down in my book, they were a necessary reminder.  My healthy means not just body healthy, my healthy includes my soul, my mind, and my ability to shine.  My shine did dull a little bit, but now I know how to correct that.

It's time.   It's time to refocus and feed my health, not just my hunger.  Today I am watching Netflix documentaries on Food (TedTalks) and I'm once again reminded about how the food we put in our body is the catalyst for the health in our years to come.  It should be medicine, not poison.  Examples- A granola bar is closer in ingredients to a snickers bar than it is to oatmeal or granola.  Most frozen yogurt is closer to ice cream than it is to yogurt.  Eating a hamburger a day, increases your risk of dying from heart disease by 1/3.  I am also meal planning for the upcoming week.  Gluten free, clean, and well-balanced will be the trick for this chick.  Lots of plants, lots of flavor, and meat on the side.  I will feed my body the way it needs.

I am now recommitting for a healthy month.  It sounds crazy since it will include Thanksgiving and Christmas, but in my experience from years past, if you can have a healthy holiday season, you can have a healthy year.  If you have a healthy holiday season, you won't be a food coma, but rather enjoying every second of your friends and family.  You may have also read one month and thought that was a short/easy goal.  Smart goal setting means being realistic and allowing yourself small successes.  Getting through the holiday season will be my small (but quite large) success to really drive me towards another healthy year.

So, I challenge you.  Comment below and tell me what your goal is.  How can you feed your health and not just your hunger?  Remember, health isn't only food and exercise.  Health means how you feel about yourself and the life you are building.  Are you happy?  If not, what can you change? Go on... Find your healthy.

C.




Spicy Bacon Omelette (Today's breakfast!)

2 eggs and 1 egg white beaten with a dash of milk.
3 mushrooms
1/5 red onion
1/4 green pepper
2 strips of bacon
2 tbl of sharp cheddar cheese
siracha
1/4 of avocado

Saute the onion, green pepper, and mushrooms.  Set it aside.

Cook your bacon & set it aside.

Pour the egg mixture into a skillet that has been warmed over medium and has the bottom coated lightly in oil.  Let the egg cook and push the sides in to allow remaining liquid to touch the hot pan.  When most of the egg is cooked, flip the egg carefully.

Put the veggies on one half and crumble 2 pieces of bacon on top.  Place the cheese in the omelet, flip, and plate.  Once it is on the plate, put the avocado on top and drizzle with as much siracha as you can handle!

P.s., I'm pretty sure I after eating this, my husband may have loved me more.  :) It's that good.

"If you're waiting for a sign...here it is!"

Good afternoon!

I hope you all enjoyed the last post and maybe thought about trying the buffalo chicken mac-n-cheese.  I was totally bummed today to see that, somehow, the hubby was able to heist the last container of leftovers.  I had been impatiently waiting for lunch time, only to be disappointed.  However- the disappointment didn't last long.

Whenever people see my progress pictures or photos of my food, it usually follows with- "I wish I could do that.  I just don't have time..." For those of you who follow my Instagram (MrsGates21) you may have noticed that the last few tag lines have been something like, "Dinner in 15 minutes? Sure thing!"  I wanted to make a point.  NEWFLASH:  Cooking healthy may take a little creativity but it certainly doesn't have to take hours.  I also firmly believe in repurposing left overs. I figured today I would post my lunch masterpiece as an example.  If you are looking for a sign to begin a healthier lifestyle, or maybe just expose you and your family to new, interesting, and healthier foods- here it is!

What you see in that beautiful photo is a artichoke and quinoa salad (leftovers that needed to be used) topped with half of a fresh avocado and 1/4 c. of cottage cheese.  I drizzled some siracha on top.  If you haven't tried siracha yet, but love spicy food- get on it!  It is a red chile based hot sauce and packs a terrific punch.  I also put some mini bell peppers with a tbl of Sabra! Supremely Spicy Hummus on the side.  This plate is full of nutrition and a secret weapon to keep in your back pocket when living a healthy lifestyle.   So you may be wondering what is this secret weapon.  Don't you worry!  I will fill you in.  The secret is too good (for you) to keep.

There is a genus of pepper plants known as capsicum.  If you commonly cook with cayenne pepper, you have been using this already.  If you use bell peppers in your cooking... you have been using this already.  Capsicum peppers help with just about everything as far as healthy living goes.  They are known to be excellent supporters of the digestive system.  Believe it or not, eating more of the capsicum peppers can help heal ulcers from the inside out.  It helps rid the body of toxins.  It helps to correct circulation problems.  It has been known to help with issues with the kidneys, arthritis, thyroid dysfunction, and even respiratory issues.  Beyond all that, it is also a nutrient rich food that packs in tons of Vitamin C and carotenoids.  Carotenoids are known to protect the body from the spread of cancer or other harmful toxins.  The list goes on and on, but you get the point.  The food we eat, has everything to do with how we feel.  It's that simple.

So, do your research and figure out how you can best feed your body.  If that doesn't motivate you, look around yourself and challenge yourself to inspire and feed your friends and family members with the best possible foods for them.  After all, if we can prevent illness through nutrition, why don't we?  If we can eat our vitamins and nutrients, why do we need to rely upon quick fix pharmacy trips.

You are what you eat, my friends- Healthy or unhealthy, we make the choices.

C.

You are What you Eat!

"Let food by they medicine, and medicine be thy food." - Hippocrates

Hello again, old friends! 

I have been actively enjoying my summer vacation and believe me, the memories made are plentiful.  After spending over a week with my parents down in Florida and getting to visit my relatives in Illinois and friends in Minnesota I was both sad to leave, but refreshed upon arriving back in North Dakota.   

This week back home has been comforting.  It was great to be back in my kitchen and sleeping in my own bed.  I decided that upon arriving back home, I would stick to a clean and gluten free diet very strictly this week.  Usually I have a cheat meal or indulge about once a week, but I have realized that the longer I have cut out or cut down on gluten, the harder my body is hit when I do indulge.  I'm starting to realize that my body doesn't like it, and it's not worth it.  Now, if you follow me on Instagram (MrsGates21), you know that when I cook at home, that is generally how I operate anyways, but after a long vacation, my body needed a careful detox.  Most of what I indulged in on vacation was still aligned with my lifestyle, but there were a few slip ups and plenty of beer consumed.  Oh by the way, beer is pretty much gluten water.  I came back from vacation only about a pound heavier than when I left, but felt bloated, tired, and sluggish.  Thankfully, we were very active during our trip with kayaking, walking, running, paddle boarding, and deep sea fishing (yes, that is activity too!).  After six days of clean eating, exercise and no gluten (minus a bite of the hubby's toast), I have lost 1.8 pounds.  That struck me.  1.8 pounds after changing close to NOTHING.  I never knew that gluten impacted me in such a way.  I can live without beer.  I can live without gluten.   Believe me...I do miss bread every now and then.  Especially very dense, whole grain breads.  I am now on the prowl to find the best gluten free bread that I can eat to help during those cravings.  If you know of any you like, please comment and let me know!  

Nutrition is so interesting to me.  Hence why I find myself watching food documentaries and reading endless amount of information relating to how the food we eat impacts our bodies.  I encourage you to do your research on the foods you most commonly eat.  It is enlightening.  Starting last January I decided to clean up my diet.  I have since lost about 20 pounds, many inches, and found a new sense of strength, well-being, and health I never knew I had.  I am in better shape that I was even in high school while I was a three sport athlete.  A quote that struck me and stuck with me was- "You have the power to create your own health, or your own disease."  I will be damned if I create my own heart disease, cancer, obesity, or organ failure.  I will be damned if my poor decisions were to ever impact my children one day in a negative fashion.  Science supports findings on how our diets impact our health.  Modern medicine is supported by prescription drug companies.  I trust doctors.  I believe in their knowledge.  But, I am going to try and prevent ever having to go to their office.  If my doctors miss me, they can find me in the kitchen, in the gym, or in the community using my joy and skills to impact the lives around me. That is a much better use of my time anyways.  :) 

Last night, I craved mac and cheese.  Sooooo, I took gluten free quinoa/rice noodles, cheddar cheese, a little bit of Parmesan, a tbl of Greek yogurt, a splash of almond milk and a head of cauliflower to make a masterpiece.  I topped it with 3 oz of buffalo chicken and half of a sliced avocado.  It must have been good because I'm pretty sure I just drooled on my key board while typing this.  If you are interested in the noodles, I found mine in the organic whole foods section of my local grocery store.  I finished my meal feeling satisfied and happy.  Oh, and desert.  I am one of those people that "needs something sweet," after a good dinner.  For that, I mixed half a cup of plain Greek yogurt with 1/3 a scoop of chocolate flavored soy protein, 1/2 tbl of PB2 with chocolate, and 1 stevia packet.  SO yummy!  Food brings me joy.  There I said it.  :)  

As humans, we only achieve to the level of success or change which we aspire.  Today, I am going to reflect on my ultimate goal.  

My lifestyle will consist of a mostly plant based diet which is also gluten free.  I will live with a healthy diet all the time, rather than a strict, dangerous and calorie reduced diet sometimes.  Most of the meat and fish that I or my family will consume will be either personally hunted/caught, or purchased from a local source.  There is no miracle pill, meal replacement or shake that can correct a poor long term lifestyle. I will remain focused on preventing health problems through healthy living, in order to limit correcting health problems through pills and procedures.  I am what I eat.  I will feed my family and those around me in a way that nourishes their bodies and not just their cravings.  I will find a way to cook healthy and nutritious foods that are delicious and inviting to tables full of friends and family.  I will exercise and train in order to keep my body in optimum shape and health.  My body was given to me in order to move. 

"When in doubt, use nutrition first." - author known.

What is your ultimate goal?  I would love it if you would comment and reflect for yourself.   It is never too late to start a healthy lifestyle.  There is never a question that is not worth asking.  If you are unsure how to start changing to a mostly plant based diet or need recipe ideas, please let me know.  Follow me on Instagram (MrsGates21).  I post almost all plates that I make!  

Have an excellent day!

C. 

Happiness is not a destination, but a direction <3 

Good Morning, everyone!

Today is Saturday, but summer is already playing tricks on me.  I can't keep my days straight!  The last four days have been such a blessing.  Tim and I got to spend his weekend (his weekends aren't always on the weekend) together doing a little housework, and a lot of fun stuff too!  


I love the quote that I posted above because it makes sense.  Just like in my classroom, I try and make sense of things.  When I am told to figure something out, but I can't figure out why it is useful, meaningful, or in general how it makes sense to me, I can't stand it!  Two years ago today, I was waking up for the first time in my new home in North Dakota.  My husband got up and went to work and I was left to get used to the walls that I knew we were going to begin our life together.  The feeling was almost surreal.  It felt like I was waking up in someone else's house...only it was filled with boxes of my belongings.  I was homesick, yet excited.  I was sad, yet forward-thinking.  What a conundrum of emotions!  This quote can really define my experience with moving and the past two years in our new home.  We bought our house and many people said, "it is too small" or you are overpaying for that house.  Well, we moved to oil country and we actually got a good deal on our house (not if we were comparing with other state, but comparing only within this outrageous market).  The small house has given the hubby and I ample time to make memories and mistakes.  Lots of walls and lots of rooms cut down on memories, if you aren't careful.  We don't have that problem.  We have one TV.  If we want to watch TV, we watch it together.  I love that.  The mistakes? Well, we live in an old house.  We put our floor in on our own.  We painted on our own.  There were a number of, "I really hope this looks good..." or "I really hope this is right..."  We are figuring it out on our own.

The best part of figuring out it, has been figuring out how to be happy throughout it all.  Sadness has certainly creeped up on me a number of times, but I continue to remind myself that I need to feel those emotions, address them, and move forward.  There is so much to be happy about and very little that should bring me down. Its okay to lose a few battles and cry a few tears.  In the end, you will win the war if you are capable of loving what you have, sharing what is extra, and smiling through the setbacks. 

On Thursday, I donated blood for the first time.  I have always wanted to, but for some reason something always came up.  The first time I attempted was during my freshman year of college.  I had successfully peer pressured my best friend to go with me.  She was not excited at all, but I had coaxed her into doing it saying it was on my bucket list and needed someone to go with me.  Unfortunately she was interviewed first and the IV had been inserted when I came out of my interview only to tell her that the tattoo I had gotten a few months earlier had made me ineligible.  Whoops!  After she got over feeling a little nausea, we were able to laugh about it.  The past few times I have tried at school ended up being on days that I didn't feel well.  Thursday was a success though.  In 8 minutes I was done and bandaged up.  Eight minutes to potentially save a life?  Why don't we all do this as often as we can.  That is something so simple.  I may not have money, but I suppose I have an extra pint of blood every 3 months ;). 

On Friday, Tim and I ran parts of the Torch Run, which kicks of the Special Olympics that started yesterday.  It was a 15 mile run total, but there is a bus that keeps pace and you can hop on and off when you need a break.  It was pouring rain, but I managed to run 6 miles and Tim ran 10.5.  It felt great, cold and rainy all at the same time.  Once again, I may not have money, but I have a few hours that I can run in the pouring rain to increase awareness for the Special Olympics.  

The things that have made me happy in the past two days have both been directly connected to my health.  Once again, my health and fitness goals have been reaffirmed. As I donated blood, the process went quicker and smoother thanks to the oodles of water I drink a day.  When I ran, I could keep up and keep going.  Years ago, even in my peak of collegiate cheerleading, I couldn't run like that.  It's working.  It's working and the feeling of success is so worth it.  

This week is back to hitting the gym pretty hard.  I gashed up my leg pretty bad at softball last week, but that is healing and if I can run 6 miles, I can squat and lift.  I saw another picture that cracked me up...


This is so true!  Add some weight to your work out and you are going to see great results.  Even if they are light weights to start, do it!  

Trying to transition to clean eating, but taking it slow?  Good for you!  Keep it up- it pays off!  Here is a quick and easy tip.  I used to be a strawberry jelly girl.  Now, I know how much refined sugars go into jelly and it kind of creeps me out... okay, it really creeps me out!  My way around that?  On your toast, put a light spread of peanut butter (we go through too much peanut butter to afford the all natural, so we still get the coffee can of Jif- I just use it lightly :).  On top of the spread, place fresh sliced strawberries and drizzle that with honey.  With the fresh fruit and the natural sugars from both the berries and honey, your belly will be happy!  In a whole wheat tortilla, you can also wrap a banana, fresh berries, PB, honey, and a little cinnamon if you are craving something sweet.  SO tasty :) 

So now the meal plan for today... 

This week, I am going to focus on clean healthy eats with good carbs. 

Breakfast today: 
2/3 oats
1/8 cup of frozen, no sugar added mixed berries 
1 tsp honey
1/8 cup of milk 

I always warm up the frozen berries first, then add them to the oats.  Pour the milk over the oats and berries.  Drizzle the honey over top.  There is no need for any refined or artificial sweeteners.  The berries and natural honey add just enough :) 

Lunch: 
Spinach salad with red onions, strawberries, sliced green apple, Gorgonzola cheese, and balsamic vinegarette.  Usually I would put some bacon pieces on it, but today I am going to go without (I don't feel like cooking the bacon :) 

Tonight:  Clean Chicken Kebobs 

I plan on making kebobs from cubed chicken breasts, that I will marinate with some herbs and brush with olive oil.  On the kebobs, I am going to put pieces of asparagus, mushrooms,  zucchini, and bell peppers.  

I am going to serve this with some steamed broccoli and  quinoa, with rotel mixed into it.  If you haven't tried it yet, this is a great side for people like that like a little heat.  The chili's in the mixture give it just the right kick!  

Desert tonight? 

I have so much rhubarb growing like crazy in my backyard!  Yum!

I am going to be making the Strawberry Rhubarb Crisp recipe from www.thegraciouspantry.com  if you are ever in need of clean eating ideas, that is the place to go!  Don't let the organic ingredients scare you, if you don't have something, google for substitutions.  I don't have many of the obscure clean eating ingredients, as many of them get to be expensive.  I work with what I have.  So tonight, the recipe calls for tapioca starch, but you can substitute corn starch.  I have that, so corn starch it is!  


Take a peek at my instagram - Mrsgates21 or Facebook for photos of this dinner :) 

I also have all sorts of clean eating ideas and workout motivation/routines on my pinterest.   Follow me on there! 

Here is a picture of my grocery list this week :) 




Until next time!

C. 

Sweet Summer- I welcome you!

Good morning, friends, 

I write to you from my humble abode, complete with the pitter patter of dogs walking around, Rachel Ray coaching me through a creamy and delicious recipe that I will soon turn clean, and the smell of a strong cup of coffee.  Of course I won't describe the pile of dishes demanding my attention, or the laundry that could be done.  After all, this blog is about loving life, not dreading to clean.  :)  

One lesson I am so grateful to have learned from my Mom is that cleaning can wait.  When you have company present, or you are enjoying a pleasant moment with your spouse, family, or even just a quiet moment to yourself, leave the cleaning for later.  Last night, I saw one of my very best friends and her daughter depart on her way back to Minnesota.  We had such an amazing visit and I was so sad to see her go.  Needless to say, any cleaning or organizing was put on hold.  I don't care if it would have taken two minutes or 20 minutes, those were minutes that she took out of her busy schedule to visit me and two minutes where I could make memories with her little one.  It is so special to me that she was willing to make Minot, North Dakota her vacation destination for this long weekend.  Of course, Tim is left to hold my hand and try to make me smile when the tears start to fall.  He did a great job with that task.  We walked into the house and he immediately asked if I wanted some chocolate covered popcorn and to snuggle on the couch.  We recently started watching Arrested Development on Netflix, so that provided a few laughs for us.  Oh, and if you scroll to the bottom I will be providing a few of my favorite recipes (as of the late) and chocolate popcorn will be included. 

I have had quite a few people ask me how I have transitioned into a healthier lifestyle and how I have transformed my body.  The introduction to this portion says it all.  I transitioned into a healthier lifestyle.  Fad diets scare me.  Supplements freak me out.  Yo-yo dieting isn't for me.  I tried to take the most natural route into getting my body and health back on track.  I started using www.MyFitnesspal.com and downloaded the app on my phone.  If you haven't used it and are interested is maybe losing a little weight, or just tracking that you are getting a balanced diet, try it!  At first it seems like a lot of work, but the more you use it, the quicker it gets.  I have learned so much about what goes into the foods I eat.  The biggest lesson I have learned, is the way my body feels after I have a day with unhealthy eating decisions.  

The first few months of my transition to cleaner eating required me to be much more strict with myself.  I didn't have cheat days because I had to create a routine and a structure.  I am a creature of habit.  I knew that if I started exercising more and only provided my body healthy options, that my body would crave those things.  It worked!  I take a prenatal vitamin as my only supplement.  My doctor told me that of all vitamins or supplements I could take, that was the best out there.  She told me that instead of overloading with powders, and multiple vitamins that I should focus on taking that once daily vitamin and EATING my vitamins and nutrients.  After reading more about clean eating, I realized I didn't need those other things.  Half of the "healthy" from fruits and vegetables are the fibers that help clean your digestive system, rid your body of toxins and purify organs.  Maybe beyond the exclusion of processed foods, that it is how clean eating gets its name?  

In six months I have lost right around 20 pounds.  I had a few skeptics who asked when I would be done or why I was still trying to get skinnier.  It was important to me to explain myself.  I am not trying to get skinny.  I am trying to get FIT.  I want to have muscle definition.  I want to have strength.  I don't want to deprive my body of anything it needs, but rather provide my body EVERYTHING it needs to function the best way possible.  Even though I have lost about 20 pounds, I have probably gained pounds of muscle.  I see definition in places I have never seen before.  Even after being a three sport athlete in high school and cheering all through college.  The results clean eating and body weight exercise have provided me is unbelievable.  I run a lot.  I do a lot of push ups.  I do a lot of burpees.  I squat until my legs want to give out.  There is nothing easy about this process.  There are no secret potions.  The only tasks on your to-do lists are to hold yourself accountable, eat foods with ingredients you know and are closest to their natural form, indulge from time to time, and make your body move.  I prefer to make myself sweat as often as possible, but movement alone is good enough.  I set goals like a boss, and I achieve goals like a beast.   

My whole body has felt better.  I sleep better.  I wake up easier.  Overall, I am happier.  I have confidence.  I am able to wear clothes that I bought in high school (yes, I have held on to things for a long time!).  When Melinda was here last weekend she told me I didn't need to get any skinnier.  I agree.  But once again, this journey isn't about being skinny.  To me, this journey is about creating a physique that looks strong, healthy, and fit.  I don't have a weight that I want to achieve, but I have muscles that I want to develop and strengthen.

Yes, sometimes I crave a double cheeseburger from McDonald's.  What do I do? I make a cheeseburger on my own grill with sweet potato saucers used as buns (I try and stay away from refined white flour).  Last week my cheat meal was a greasy cheeseburger.  It tasted good, but after eating it, I thought my stomach was going to bust out of my body and search for a new human inhabitant.  It was soooooo mad at me for that decision.  I felt gross.  The taste was not worth it.  My grilled at home cheeseburger was sooooo much better and made me feel good.  What a difference!  

This blog is going to continue more regularly now.  I have had requests from facebook friends especially to start a blog with the food that I make or have made.  Please sign up to follow me, and if I fall off the face of the earth for a few days, have patience.  I am going to try and create a new habit (creature of habit...remember?) and on top of that, this is my  summer.  I may be busy gardening, spending time with friends, sleeping in, cuddling my dogs, working out, or traveling.  That list has me excited for summer :) 

After this long weekend, tomorrow marks first day of summer as a teacher.  It is such a funny feeling.  "Funny" is about the only word to describe it.  Surreal could also be used, but that seems much too serious when describing anticipation and excitement for summer, even on the adult level.  Last summer at this time I was still working at an office job and I was laughing with my co-workers about how I didn't understand how grown-ups were supposed to work during all of the beautiful weather.  Apparently my need to educate and teach is genetically ingrained within me.  I'm not complaining!   

Now, time for a throw back....  I had a wonderful year of teaching.  I was over-the-moon ecstatic when I got the job offer at about this time, last year. I had worked so hard for four years of college and I was watching my hard work and dreams take tangible form.  I had moments throughout this year where I would be walking through the halls and couldn't help but smile because I felt whole.  How great is that feeling?  The feeling that your heart has found its fit and your passion has found its niche.  My little life in Minot, North Dakota developed into something so great.  We moved here two years ago (May 31st to be exact) and I told Tim that we had about two years.  That I wasn't going to be able to stay this far away, for that long.  He actually brought up that proposition a few months ago.  Pretty sure my response surprised him.  It surprised me when I responded with, but I have a job I love, I have friends here that I will miss, and even though travel is expensive, it gives us a reason to go.  I miss my family, my friends, and the trees of Minnesota every single day.  Now you may be thinking, "Trees...trees?  Really Carly?"  It's the truth!  Flat North Dakota has its own beauty, and it took awhile for me to get used to it and really appreciate it, but would love a little bit more coniferous, forestry action in my life. :) Maybe I'll have to plant some more trees in my back yard! ha. The neighbors would LOVE that ;) Who knows if this will be our forever home, but I am ready to feel settled.  After Illinois, Minnesota, College, Student-Teaching,  packing up for ND, and switching jobs- I SO am tired of transitions.  I am ready to feel like I have found a home and this little house has turned into just that.  How blessed were we that we were given an opportunity to explore new places, make new friends, and develop our relationship as husband and wife in a way that we were able to figure things out together and on our own?  Sure, having help would have been great when we were figuring out home ownership, but even our dumbest decisions were our own.  That is something special. 

So, to finish my first blog post of this summer, I provide you with my latest snack obsession, lunch for the day, and dinner for tonight.  I hope you enjoy them as much as I do.  They aren't difficult to make.  Healthy choices aren't difficult to make!  We just have to try :) 

Craving something sweet? 

Chocolate Covered Popcorn

3 tbl of unpopped corn 
1-2 tbl of dark chocolate chips
1/2 cup of mini marshmallows (optional- unclean, but low calorie & a sweet treat/cheat) 
hint of ground coarse sea salt

In an air popper (No oil!), pop the corn kernels.  When the kernels are about half popped, start stirring in your chocolate chips and marshmallows.  With the hot air from the air popper and the hot kernels, the chocolate will begin to melt.  Keep the air popper on while you stir the mixture.  stir until the chocolate has melted and has lightly coated all of the popped corn. 


For Lunch Today? 

1 can of tuna fish in water
Romaine lettuce
Kale
Cherry Tomatoes
1/2 Avocado *optional
Red Onion
Cucumber
Helman's with olive oil mixed with minced garlic and basil to taste

Mix the tuna with mayo mixture.  Place over the fresh bed of greens and vegetables. Simple and yummy.  Also, don't be alarmed.  This may look low carb, but you are getting your carbs from vegetables and fiber.  Carbs help to cleanse your digestive system, allow your brain and body lasting fuel, and slow the absorption of nutrients, which will help regulate blood sugar and reduce cravings.  Sugars and refined white grains are the guys to moderate or stay away from...I moderate, otherwise I go hog wild when I do have sweets around me!


For Dinner Tonight? 

Caprese Grilled Chicken

4 Boneless, Skin-less chicken breasts
Fresh Mozzarella (Part-skim)
1 Plum tomato 
2 tbl Olive Oil
6 tbl Balsamic Vinegar
1/4 c. Fresh Basil
Minced Garlic

*** for the mozzarella, I buy this in the cheese section of the grocery store, not the deli or gourmet cheeses.  Unless you are very particular, There is usually a grocery brand that is fresh and it is half the cost. Every once and a while it is a treat to have the expensive stuff, but after all, we are a young couple...$10 on a ball of cheese just isn't an option!


For the chicken, I always weigh mine to ensure that they ring in at between 3-4 oz.  Some of them are much larger, it overkill when it comes to portions.  Put the balsamic vinegar in a small sauce pan. Bring it to a boil, reduce heat and let it reduce to about half.  Mix olive oil and garlic in a small bowl.  Gently brush the chicken breasts with the mixture.  brush the grill with a little olive oil as well.  Sprinkle a little salt and pepper on the chicken breasts.  Place on the grill for about 5 minutes a side or until the thermometer reads 165 degrees when placed in the thickest part of the chicken breast.  Remove from the grill, top with a slice of fresh mozzarella, tomato, and fresh basil.  Serve beside a small Greek salad.  


Have a great memorial day and remember to be mindful of the men and women who have the ultimate sacrifice for our freedoms.  

God bless! 

C.

Cup of Coffee and Politics :)

hello friends:) 

Thank you for your patience... I know that I have neglected my blog and some of you may have noticed.  I have been waiting until something grabbed me and made me feel like I needed to write. Today I have a number of things that I would like to spew into words.  I am warning you ahead of time, I am writing with words that are going to argue tolerance, civic action, and love.  If any of those three things scare you, well, you might want to find a more subdued blog to read.  

Of course it has been posted all over the internet and therefore people are either going to be grabbed into the political arguments in American society or they are going to push themselves further away from politics.  It always blows my mind when I hear people's arguments against same sex marriage.  Below, I list the top 8 reasons that drive me the most crazy and my counter analysis of those beliefs... (I originally thought it'd be 5, but as I wrote I couldn't leave out certain points.

1. Nurture:  "People choose to be gay and therefore are choosing to not want to be a part of the norm."  
1. Counter-argument:  To begin, this is absolute nonsense.  When there are children growing up who know that there is something different about their attraction to the opposite sex or same sex, this argument is already pointless.  However, for the sake of really blowing this argument to pieces I am going to take an different perspective.  There are a number of things I choose in my life.  One of which is my religion.  I choose to go to a certain church and have a certain relationship with God.  It is stated very clearly in our U.S. Constitution that I can not be discriminated against based on my religion.  In fact, we have created this country based on looking for more religious freedom.  American mind-set tells us that we should be able to choose our faith and live accordingly.   If indeed people "chose" to be a part of the LGBT community, wouldn't this fall into that category?  Personal choice is personal choice.  It is the American way for us to imagine our own dreams, form our own ideas, and live the way we see fit.  If I was someone who "chose" to be in the LGBT community I would be outraged by the religious mumbo-jumbo that would bar me from uniting with my soul mate.  In the case of personal choice, I choose to be an ally.  In the case of personal choice, I choose to emphasize inclusion and love rather than separation and hate. 
2. Nature: People are born this way. <-- in this case, this is a reason that I believe and my following explanation is merely more of an explanation rather than arguing against the statement. 
1. I was born female.  The law protects me from gender discrimination.  I was born white and others were born black.  The law protects us from discrimination on the basis of race.  If someone is born with a genetic disposition towards a certain sexual orientation, the law should protect them as well.  If the law has no reason to be a part of that discussion and states should have that choice, then why don't we repeal the laws that allow me and the rest of the women in the United States achieve better workplace equality.  Why don't we go back to allowing states choose whether separate is equal.  
3. "It degrades the meaning of marriage and I am offended that the definition of marriage would change." 
1. Ugh, this one gets me fired up.  To make it more clear, I have a number of counter arguments.
1. I can go online and be ordained a minister for $50 and it would take about 10 minutes to fill out the application.  If marriage is solely a religious institution, these sites should be shut down.  Ironically, religious fundamentalists aren't putting their time and effort into shutting those down. 
2. Thousands of people get married in Vegas each week.  You can be totally intoxicated and get married by a fat Elvis and that is legal.  If that is the case, those marriages may be formed out of impulsiveness rather than love.  Ironically, those little chapels and that fat Elvis are allowing someone be a husband and a wife and it doesn't have to do with a church.  But, it is a man and a wife at least so...that makes it better?---what a crock of bologna. 
3. Any heterosexual couple can walk into a court house, stand before a justice of the peace and become husband and wife.  Many people whom do not associate with a particular church choose this option.  This is not a religious institution.  Does that make the institution of marriage mean less?  That has been happening for years so that couples can maintain the government protection and benefits of marriage.  Why aren't religious groups picketing outside of the court house trying to shut that down?
1. Should we call that a different name?  That doesn't protect the religious institution of marriage... maybe all heterosexual couples should be left out of that label if they choose to get married in a setting different than a church.
4. "I am going to vote based on personal convictions" 
1. No one asked for advice or an opinion.  The purpose of government is to guide and protect all of the American people... The purpose was never to make choices for and raise the American public a certain way. 
1. That's funny because shouldn't you be voting based on the purpose of government?  Aren't your personal convictions what you would do?  Isn't it true that we still do not have a government system that represents the full diversity of its constituents?  Therefore, your personal convictions should guide your decisions and how you raise your children, but the rest of the American public did not welcome your opinion or ask, "what would you do?"  They already know what they would like to do, and they just want the freedom to DO WHAT THEY WANT. 
5. "My church believes that marriage is between a man and a woman. 
1. Fortunately for you, your church does not have to change its stance and therefore can continue to leave the LGBT community out of that ceremony.  The sanctity of marriage in your church never has to change.  The only thing that would change would be the option of using the justice of the peace or $50 online ministers to complete the ceremony and sign a marriage certificate. 
6. From Attorney Cooper's (defense for the state of CA) own argument... "Marriage is an institution put in place by the state to regulate procreation and families." 
1. 37,000 babies in the state of California are being raised by same sex couples thanks to the adoption process.  If they are respectful and responsible enough to raise those children, why can't they sign the damn marriage license and be called husband and husband or wife and wife.  The state is considering families there...but I am missing something in the state's logic. 
1. On top of that, we have thousands of kids in the foster system in each state.  Wouldn't it be nice to provide them a stable home?  
2. Apparently, if marriage is about procreation, couples that don't ever want to have children shouldn't be allowed to get married.  This should be a box on the marriage license application.  "Yes or No:  We plan to have children at some point during this union (if no, please tear up application)" 
3. Apparently, if marriage is about procreation, elderly couples or widows shouldn't be able to remarry.  Or at least only women... sorry ladies but there comes a time when our biological clocks run out and at that point, according to this argument we serve no benefit to state.  
7. "This is not a decision to be made by the government" 
1. Exactly.  That is what marriage equality would be adding to American society.  The freedom to choose and protection do so.  It does not say that each person must now marry an individual of the same sex.  This would just ensure that people are able to do as they please. 
2. If you don't like government regulation in business and our free market, then why do you like government intervention in your community, home, relationships, and doctors office?  You either like big government or you don't.  
8. "Marriage is better between a man and a woman" 
1. Explain to me the almost 50% divorce rate between man and a woman?  Trust me, it wasn't just bad math. 
2. Explain the high rates of domestic violence. 
3. Marriage between a man and a woman isn't always good.  Neither will same sex marriage, but don't try and use this argument.  It makes no sense. 
4. Maybe it's better for you.  Then feel free to marry the opposite sex. :)  No one is stopping you! 

There has never been a time in history that it was cool to be intolerant or close-minded.  That has never stopped Americans from falling into trends of prejudice and discrimination. When I teach my students I focus on the social changes that have occurred throughout our history.  We are still a young country.  We are still trying to figure out the place and purpose of our government; however, I can assure you that when we look back on this ruling 40 years from now, we will notice that it is common sense.  It makes absolutely no sense why would try to step into someone's personal decision making.  Consider the rulings on inter-racial marriages.  Is so clear that it would be wrong to have that law on the books, so why is same sex marriage any different? 

Now, if you have made it this far and are still reading, I'd beg to argue that many of those arguments could be used in support of the pro-choice movement.  What many don't believe is that is absolutely possible to be a pro-choice individual who is part of the pro-choice movement.   Would abortion be an option that I would consider?  No... but do I think I or a government figure have the right to decide for someone else?  Absolutely not.  That is a decision that should be made with a woman, the father of the child, her doctor, and her God.  We haven't been able to pass legislation that protects all of the children here right now...why would we have states (ND included) that don't fund sex education or when they do, fund abstinence only, but take away safe options.  Historically, when we outlaw something, people do it anyways and it is generally more dangerous.  Precisely why Prohibition failed.  

Here is an idea, instead of making legislation on the decision, why don't we fund more education for youth regarding the safe practices of sex and character development.  Why doesn't our government work to find constitutional legislation that could help raise our communities and children better?  Why don't we spend millions on youth centers and safe entertainment for adolescents rather than litigation.  When I ask youth why they spend their weekends partying, which at some point is going to either include or bring up the option of sexual activity, they say it is because "there is nothing to do in this town."  I'd have to agree.  American teens are maturing much more quickly these days due to popular culture.  Either we start to adapt the current system to align with their specific needs, or we are bound to have a generation of very sexually uneducated individuals producing a consequently under-cared for generation of babies.  I would say that has a higher moral benefit for the good of our country and it would also serve as a institution to help regulate procreation in a positive manner.  This is the same discussion that the Scopes v. Monkey trial had when a science teacher wanted to teach Darwinism and evolution to his students and the supreme court had to rule.  If you don't want your kid to sit in sex education, don't sign the permission slip.  They will just google their questions later.  Hopefully the wiki answer they find about contraception helps them protect themselves.  For the rest of the parents that are too afraid to bring up the topic of sex to their kids, you know they will at least hear the birds and the bees from someone.   That would be constitutional.  More constitutional than ruling over a woman's body.  As far as I know I am not required by the law to donate my organs, to donate blood, to provide any other body part to support the rest of society, so therefore my body is still my decision.  Like I said earlier, it is okay to be a pro-life individual in the pro-choice movement... I swear to you.  Raise your children accordingly and mold the minds of youth so that they can hopefully not put themselves in the situation of making a decision on abortion.  Raise them to love all life, fetus, elderly, gay, straight, or anything in between.  Then we can reduce the numbers of lives lost due to those procedures... but don't put your religious convictions into the conversation that would rule over millions of people, people who may not read the Bible at all or the same way as you.  

Last question, why does Dennis Rodman no more about Kim Jong Un than our CIA.  If that doesn't scare people, I don't know what would.  North Korea makes me nervous.  The fact that we don't hear enough about it in the states scares me.  I live on the continental United States, which I know we say they don't have the capabilities to hit, but they do have mobile missiles.  Throw that thing on a boat and your in business.  I also have family stationed in South Korea along with thousands of other military personnel.  I want them kept safe.  At this point, I don't want the news to protect me, I want them to educate me on the realness of the situation. 

We are living in an interesting time period my friends.  Within the next months and year there will be changes happening both in this country alone and globally.  The inter-connectiveness of people has increased so greatly that we really are dependent and reliant on not only ourselves these days, but the government and the other countries of the world. 

Feel free to leave comments.  We live in the United States of America and differing perspectives makes democracy happen.  I hope that I raised good points and even if you don't agree with me on the fundamental issues that you were forced to think a little about my arguments.  God speed and God Bless on this Easter weekend.  For my fellow Christians, we are blessed to have had Jesus die for our sins and provide for us the life that we are living.  Afterall, he knew and loved us all in the womb and created us according to his plan...even the LGBT, pro-choice community, North Korea, and Dennis Rodman ;)  That sure makes this life we live interesting and thought provoking! 

Love you all!  

Me.